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Death and Social Media

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What to do with Social Media accounts

Unfortunately, there is no easy, “one-click” way to shut down all social media accounts. You might think that accounts would be closed automatically after a period of inactivity, but that’s not always the case.

Facebook has a setting where you can appoint a legacy representative to manage your account after your death. If you don’t appoint anyone then Facebook will keep the account active until they are notified otherwise.

Twitter will close the account after six months of inactivity.

If you’re looking to close down the social media accounts of someone who has passed away, it’s important to understand the procedures and requirements, especially as many people have their social media accounts linked to various payment methods.

Here are some official links below on closing accounts;






How to talk about death on Social Media

As a society, we are still very uncomfortable with talking about death to others. It is often very difficult to discuss the loss of a loved one in person, making it harder to address on social media.

Talking about the death of a loved one and sharing memories of them can help you through the grieving process and keep their memory alive.

Etiquette on how to discuss death of a loved on social media depends on the circumstances surrounding their death and their relationship to you.

If the deceased is a close member of your family, it is entirely up to you on how you choose to remember them online. This could be an online memorial page such as Pure Cremation’s Pure Memories (Click here for more information), or could just be a social media post to let your friends and family know that you are grieving a loved one.

If you are not related to the person who has passed away, it is very important to make sure that you respect the families wishes before posting anything online. For example, you should not post anything unless they have as there may be family members that have not yet been informed.

A private message to the family could be an appropriate way to reach out to someone who is grieving a loved one, however you should make sure that they are aware that they do not have to reply. It is also a good way to go into more detail when talking about the person who has passed away, as this could bring comfort to the family. However, avoid talking too much about your own experiences early on as this could cause distress to the family.

If someone you know has posted about the death of a loved one on social media, it is important to choose the right words to say. Some of the most common expressions used online are:

  • “I am very sorry for your loss”
  • “He/She will be dearly missed”
  • “I am thinking of you and your family”
  • “Sending you all our love”
  • “You are in our thoughts and prayers”

You should avoid saying:

  • “You’ll feel better soon”
  • “They are in a better place”
  • “I know how you feel”


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